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introvert

The perks of being an introvert – and 5 misconceptions

There I was, sitting in a small meeting room sipping my herbal tea while being interrogated by a requiter for a new job opportunity. The interview went really well. It felt as thought we were on the same page and jokes were being made. “Would you describe yourself as being extravert or introvert?”. Introvert, I said very committedly. She was struck dumb by my answer and my self-confidence for coming out for being an introvert. “But you are so talkative and easy going…?”. Yep, that is correct. She looked very surprised and I could see somewhat of a disappointment in her eyes. I could see her mentally stoking a red cross through my cv, as if this was a big negative for the job. “But you will have lots of client contact in this job… won’t that be a problem then?”. Well, of course not, I like building strong and close relationships with people, and therefore also my clients… Why would that have to do anything with being an introvert, I wondered? Something is going …

6 tips to overcome anxiety

About facing fears – 6 tips to help you overcome anxiety

Nowadays I hear more and more people opening up about their anxiety. I am happy to see that this topic is now openly discussed and recognized. I remember being really ashamed for constantly feeling anxious, because I couldn’t explain what was happening to me. Also I had never heard anybody speaking about similar feelings, so it felt like I was being dramatic and I was making it all up. Therefore, I felt completely alone with my fear and thought there was nothing that could be done to obliterate this ice cold fear. I thought it will simply be there to dominate the rest of my life. Yes- this sounds like a nightmare, but it is for many other people their ugly daily truth. A jump back in time… I was watching a film with my roommates in Paris. It was just an ordinary evening, nothing special had happened that day other than going to work. The film of choice was an animated movie about a bunch of cheery zoo animals going on a worldly adventure, …

dating yourself

The best date you will ever have!

I really enjoy being by myself and I am very good at entertaining myself. Always have been. Ever since I was little I could play all by myself for hours. Later when I was a teenager I went shopping alone or took myself out for a movie. When I was a student I went out to the pub by myself quite often. Like I said, I’m very good at being just with me. I moved out to live on my own when I was 18 years old. Coming home alone to a space entirely mine and being surrounded with my own belongings immediately felt natural to me. I had all the time in the world just for me! Then all of a sudden… there’s someone living with me and all this me-time becomes us-time. Which is great of course. However it does feel like I neglect my desire to being alone sometimes, doing those little things nobody would understand, because they’re weird to the rest of the world. Honestly, dealing with your own weird habits …

A lesson learned taking portraits of random strangers

Recently I started a photography course. I studied photography at the art academy when I was a student. I always loved the art and enjoy visiting photography exhibitions regularly. I find it very amazing how photographers are able to catch emotion and turn it into a story. I never finished the art academy, which I regret a lot. That’s why I started the photography course, in order to pursue my long lost dream of becoming a professional photographer (that writes, has excellent drawing skills and travels the world, also). I’m really enjoying the course. It feels like I can make up for lost time and it makes me dream of future plans… I also adopted it in my me-time routine. I make it my personal night out. Every Thursday evening I take myself out for dinner and after that we discuss about aperture and shutter speeds. After some serious theory lessons, practicing in the studio and photographing still objects we were let loose in Antwerp to practice the real deal. During this field trip we …

About shedding fur and shooting daffodils

Around this time of year the same old feeling bestows me. Winter is slowly coming to an end and the promise of spring is just around the corner, yet it’s not quite here. Days are getting longer, daffodils are shooting from the ground but it’s still too cold to leave the house without mittens. It is what feels like decades I’ve been hibernating to survive those dreary, cold and dark days. And even though I appreciate winter and all that comes with it, I just need it to end. However, where I’m from, winter can continue well into April. This is the time where I feel motivationally drained and I need to drag myself into doing anything. Don’t get me wrong, I really appreciate winter and even though I am not the most active and inspirational of people during those months I somehow accept my tardy state of being. Every year it seems like the first thing I need to do is get myself motivated again in order for me to be ready to take …

The perspective of things

Recently I got invited for a cuppa and a chat about an interesting opportunity at a start up within a very interesting industry. I jumped at it, because the job description was exactly what I’ve been looking for. At one point my interviewer asked me where I saw opportunities to learn within my field of expertise. An interesting question, I thought from my perspective. It gave me the feeling they were open for personal development and supportive of an ascending learning curve within their company. And so, I answered their question with wanting to learn more about the effectiveness and implementation of social strategies and how to measure content effectiveness. During my experiences I have learned a thing or two about efficiently using social media to gain awareness and engagement, but like any field of job, you will never stop learning. She responded with a simple “interesting”. Next question… She mentioned my many international experiences I have  on my cv. She asked how I felt about being back in my motherland. I explained to her …

Generation Why

I remember sitting in the back of the car looking out the window responding with why?, my favourite question at the time, to everything my mum said to me. Everybody goes through this typical phase and it’s a logical aspect of life to ask why things are the way they are. It is, in general, the perfect question in order to obtain as much information needed for you to learn about life as quickly as possible. I strongly feel I never really grew out of this phase. I think ‘why’ is the leading question in my life, and I believe for so many others my age as well.

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The life of an ex-expat

After having lived abroad for almost five years in three different countries, I felt it was time to go home. Today, exactly one year ago I decided it was time to move back to my motherland. I thought this was going to be easy. After all, it was the country I grew up in. However, nothing could be further from the truth. When I got back I thought time had stood still and I could pick up right where I left off. Except, it hadn’t. Everything had moved on, everybody had moved on. Which is, of course, the natural course of things.

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A brand new year!

I am looking back at an eventful year, as a lot has changed for me in 2015. I said goodbye to my life in France and moved back to my motherland. I realised that I needed to find a place where I can feel at ease in order to find myself. Being in my own country again surrounded by family and friends and also my silly little culture definitely helped, but a place to call my home is something I still need to find.

Stay zen

How to stay zen when looking for a job

Hello there! I know, it’s been a while since we’ve last seen each other. But given the name of todays post, you might guess what I’ve been up to lately. That’s right, I have been looking for a new job! And may I tell you, it has been quite the adventure so far! The things you have to go trough as a job searcher these days… my oh my. What a lot of people don’t realise is that applying for jobs is actually a fulltime occupation by itself. Perusing the internet to find the best suitable vacancies, tweaking cv’s, writing original letters, being the best you can, growing a thick skin as a result of the many rejections and trying not to have a mental breakdown… It is hard!